Availability to Others During the Holidays
by Irene Schiff
Speaking well is not only something public speakers can do, we are all able do so.
We
don't mean knowing how to speak in an eloquent or articulate manner
which is not necessarily a skill everyone has. We are rather
referring to the ability to speak in a friendly manner and to convey
positive messages. How often are we in a position to witness malice or do
we ourselves contribute to spreading or even creating spiteful messages?
When this happens we are not even all that aware of the grief we can
cause. On the contrary, we
wish to inform a friend in all kindness about the behaviour of a common
acquaintance "you probably don't know
this, but you should know that..." and this is how we think our
malicious gossip is even turning into something beneficial.
Could that friend criticize us? Should we have feelings of guilt?
Absolutely not! |
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1)
You can't stand your mother-in-law and it's her
birthday: 2)
Your friends have organized a party 3)
Someone asks you for a favour which requires little
effort: 4)
You win 50 Euros: 5)
A colleague seems upset: 6)
In a train, an older person keeps telling you about his or her
youth: 7)
With friends: 8) There is a program that interests you on
television
and the phone rings: 9) You are mainly unhappy about a misunderstanding
with: 10)
In the company of friends, there is a conversation about another friend
who has succeeded well: 11) In your home, there is a single bed and a
couch;
12)
You know a piece of gossip about a girlfriend: |
14)
You prefer: 15)
Your favourite saying is: SCORE
FROM 45 TO 35 POINTS: You spontaneously like to get close to others and establish good relationships. If you are offended by someone, you first tend towards self-criticism, you try to understand before reprehending the other. Your motto is : "there is no time for rudeness"! FROM
34 TO 25 POINTS: You know that bad-mouthing someone is wrong, but sometimes when you have a little opportunity... You don't necessarily take the initiative, but when it happens you participate. FROM
24 TO 15 POINTS: Sometimes we don't speak well of others to make ourselves feel more important, it is as though we were saying: "this I would never do, do you see how superior I am?" But, if we were so superior, why would we need to convince others? |